God bless him really. I didn't sense a real hatred oozing out of him. Those are actually curious questions that many have and wondering if what you say and live is true. If he doesn't know Christ and the depth of life in Him, I hope someday he will.
Joe Brummer
· 2 years ago
Funny enough Randy, I as a happy gay man look at his questions as being rather antagonistic, but for the fun of it, I thought I would answer some of them from a gay man's view as well since his questions are just as skewed against most gay men as they are towards you. Your lipring friend asked "it must be hard to see a hot guy walk by" Even as a gay man thats a strange question. Would if be any different if a hot women walked by for a straight guy? Gay men's lives are not all about sex contrary to what this young man may think. I see an attractive guy walk by, notice and go about my day. Should a hot guy stop time or something? What does that mean? It was a very shallow thing to say to you or anyone ele for that matter. I also don't know any gay men that spend their time looking around a room trying to decide who's hot and whose not. In fact, I have never done that and never would. The hottest guy I ever notice in a room is the one I have been with for 8 years of my life. That is the only hot guy in the room. Your young friends questions seem to paint a picture of gay men all being shallow and sex driven and that is just a mean stereotype that isn't based in reality. Your responses were very good.
Maureen
· 2 years ago
Randy, your response to him was great. Reading this as a heterosexual woman, I had the same thoughts as Joe: those are incredibly shallow questions to direct toward anyone and that he was being (ineptly)antagonistic. I think that Susan is being kind (as I believe Susan most always is, to her credit). I think he wanted to rattle you or make his own statement. If he was simply curious, it would have been more about the issue and less about you. But, after hearing your response to him and that he shook your hand, I hope he left with a lesson learned, that two opposing opinions don't have to be grounded in hate.
Randy
· 2 years ago
thanks Maureen. I agree with your ideas especially about Susan being kind.
Jeremiah
· 2 years ago
"Hate" speech - or rather the leftwing presumption of being able to competently and purposefully define it - has long baffled and angered me. Some forms of hate are appropriate and necessary. For my part, I decided to end a friendship with someone who had known me for years but who insisted (after I recently came forward about being "ex-gay") on treating me the way Mr. Lip-ring treated you. It's not exactly hateful, but it's certainly not friendly. It's more like "amateur-spiteful". If we were to grant Mr. Lip-ring's baiting assumptions, then the question of whether gays could openly serve in the military would be settled with a clear NO.
Kinderling
· 2 years ago
Those hateful questions were directed to see if Randy had truely let go of his Identity as a "Homosexual"; or suppressed himself under the veneer of the Judao-Roman Virgin God worshipers. A fleeting temptation does not mean it has gone. When something has been blasted by reality - it does not exist - it has no life to rise to the occassion. For if one claimed to be a "Black Person" it would be pertinent to ask how they saw people in the crowd; if the proportion of black and white faces was appropriate for them to not feel a rising sense of resentment. The questions therefore for Randy were pertinient and the answer "not yet, I have found myself into another guise" given for the questioner who walked away.
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Your lipring friend asked "it must be hard to see a hot guy walk by"
Even as a gay man thats a strange question. Would if be any different if a hot women walked by for a straight guy? Gay men's lives are not all about sex contrary to what this young man may think. I see an attractive guy walk by, notice and go about my day. Should a hot guy stop time or something? What does that mean? It was a very shallow thing to say to you or anyone ele for that matter.
I also don't know any gay men that spend their time looking around a room trying to decide who's hot and whose not. In fact, I have never done that and never would. The hottest guy I ever notice in a room is the one I have been with for 8 years of my life. That is the only hot guy in the room.
Your young friends questions seem to paint a picture of gay men all being shallow and sex driven and that is just a mean stereotype that isn't based in reality.
Your responses were very good.
For my part, I decided to end a friendship with someone who had known me for years but who insisted (after I recently came forward about being "ex-gay") on treating me the way Mr. Lip-ring treated you. It's not exactly hateful, but it's certainly not friendly. It's more like "amateur-spiteful".
If we were to grant Mr. Lip-ring's baiting assumptions, then the question of whether gays could openly serve in the military would be settled with a clear NO.
For if one claimed to be a "Black Person" it would be pertinent to ask how they saw people in the crowd; if the proportion of black and white faces was appropriate for them to not feel a rising sense of resentment.
The questions therefore for Randy were pertinient and the answer "not yet, I have found myself into another guise" given for the questioner who walked away.