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Blogger Dawn Eden on Today

Started by Randy · 10 ヶ月 ago

Blogger Dawn Eden appeared on Today this morning to discuss sexless dating and her book, The Thrill of the Chaste: Finding Fulfillment While Keeping Your Clothes On. Eden did a great job and I thought the segment was balanced in that both Eden and writer/DJ Jo Arden Maeder got equal time to ... Continue reading »

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  • She really did do a fantastic job. Very impressive! While the professional had her bias... she was also very professional. I am glad she respected Dawn's right to self determined sexual stewardship.
  • This was not a bad segment! Wow! I am surprised that the whole thing was that civil.

    I think it is brave for Eden to stand up for chaste behavior in light of her history of un-chaste behavior. To me, their arguments FOR of sexual liberation fell on deaf ears because Eden had already "been there, done that." I kept waiting for the discussion part that had to do with her book. It didn't really happen. Once Ms. Maeder got into the discussion with her head-tossing-gleeful-laughing-self, I saw it as a little bit mocking...AND the religious reasons for celibate living... well, I go with you, Randy. It comes down to a person's self determined sexual stewardship. Go figure that anyone would have a problem or question about that?
    On a side note, I think it's funny somehow a book about sexuality from a person named Eden. Luv it.
  • I think it’s funny somehow a book about sexuality from a person named Eden. Luv it.


    I hadn't thought of that, that's great.
  • Want to read something funny? This post (as of this comment) comes up second on the google search for jo arden maeder
  • Great spot. I did very much appreciate the professionalism on all sides. Even though I have lived the "unchaste life" myself, it still blows my mind that people still argue that you have to find out if your "sexually compatible" to decide if you want to continue on in your relationship. Even in my limited experience engaging in sin, we were probably not terribly "compatible" at the beginning of the relationship - but over time - it was a different story. (Probably WAY TMI!) But just because the sex was good did not mean I should marry him. And luckily I did not, and got my life back on track. It's not all about sex! And the result of sex, whether the world wants to believe it or not, is emotional bonding and eventual scaring when outside of a marriage commitment. You take ever prior relationship somehow into your subsequent relationships. To me that philosophy of needing to be "sexually compatible" implies that the way it is while dating is as good as it will ever get (which was not my experience, or that of most married people I know who tell me how much better it has gotten over time as they bond as a couple), and it says that if I get married, and 6 months later either I or my husband are maimed in such a way that we are unable to have or enjoy sex in the same way, well then we basically have grounds for divorce. Sex is an important part of the marriage package, a gift, and one I hope to enjoy again some day within a right relationship this time around, but sex is not or should not be the deciding factor as to whether a person is THE person for you. All that to say... good interview.

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