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After an individual booed Ken Hutcherson (something obviously less flagrant than advocating violence).
It is my impression that the perceived "silence" of gay-affirming voices was inappropriate, or possibly even that it constituted acceptance or indifference.
If there is a difference, could you please clarify for us.
also, who is "us." Do you speak on behalf of more than yourself?
But militant gay activists will never convince the people that say rude, insensitive, dumb things to be more tolerant like they (the activists) want (or more loving, which is the real issue). And the people that say rude, insensitive, dumb things will never convince the gay activists of anything, either through those remarks or when they say other things. Obviously private e-mail from a friend who understands both sides will be much more effective than yelling at someone or publicly castigating him.
I think that there is a problem because both sides see each other through a thick layer of stereotypes. Your e-mail was humanizing.
I saw that too, and in the end, I think that's the key. I liked the email, Randy.
"At that point I felt the Spirit asking me, "Randy ... what is the sin?" The only Scripture I knew was Leviticus 18:22 (that's only because it was on the signs that the Christians held up at pride parades and outside of clubs). I told the Lord that I didn't like that Scripture. But He persisted, "What is the sin?" I thought through the verse again: "When one man lies with another as a woman it is an abomination before the Lord," (emphasis mine). The word "it" jumped out at me. I sensed the Spirit asking, "What is 'it'?"
I answered, "A gender neutral pronoun?" I was a little surprised that in the middle of this powerful time the Holy Spirit would be giving me an English pop quiz. I felt Him say, "EXACTLY!!!"
Then my world fell apart over one little word. "It" meant that I was not the abomination, Ron was not the abomination. It was the abomination — the act itself was keeping Ron and me looking toward each other and not to God for fulfillment of who we were and what God intended."
Basically it seemed to Randy, as a gay man, that *he* was considered 'an abomination' by Christians (and/or the Bible). But after this experience he realized that it was not him, or any other people, who were bad, but that it was what they were doing that was bad. Randy's original view, of being under personal attack, seems to be the usual understanding that the average gay person has of 'mean Christians' (Randy's words) and their ideas. This view of course gets reinforced by idiots who do things like bringing guns to gay bars and saying horrible things in the public square.
But I also think that the concept of 'it' v. 'them' is what causes a lot of the insensitivity from the right. The people on the right who engage in the broad range of 'homophobic' behaviors can't see past the 'it' to the people engaging in 'it.' They don't recognize that what they say/do is hurting real human beings. In particular, the people who say things (often as jokes, albeit jokes in very poor taste) don't recognize that what they are saying will be heard by the people standing on the other side of the fence, and, once heard, interpreted within a completely different context and from a completely different frame of reference. One that remembers and has experienced actual acts of violence, and is therefore not likely to take threats of it lightly.
Someone who doesn't recognize that different, legitimate frame of reference and the people behind it, won't ever be able to reach them in any positive way.
Hopefully that all made sense :)
(I would also like to point out that this illustrates that if everyone knew their grammar better, and applied it to their daily lives and readings, we would all be happier :) )
It's humbling to hear how the Lord uses something to causes us to pause, then we reflect and share ... then others pause. It is a blessed thing to watch unfold.